Planning a Memorial Service

Common Questions About Moral Support And Funeral Planning

by Wade Watkins

Most individuals understand how important it is to make plans for their funeral in advance, but many people do not do so. The National Funeral Directors Association (NFDA) says that only 21.4 percent of people surveyed in America actually have gone through the process of planning their own funerals. People tend to put off things that make them uncomfortable, and even though planning a funeral is a straightforward process, it can bring about some undesirable emotions. Bringing along someone you love to help you go through the process is ideal. Here is a look at two of the common questions about bringing people with you when planning your funeral. 

Who is the best person to take with you to plan your funeral in advance?

It is a hard thing to ask of anyone, but bringing along someone closest to you to the funeral home will help you a great deal when you are making your own funeral arrangements. Facing this kind of planning is not always easy on your own because it can be a bit emotional for some people.

It is usually recommended that you bring along your closest living relative for moral support and to help guide your decisions about what you want. For example, a husband should bring along his wife or a parent may choose to bring along their adult child. When the funeral plans come to fruition, the person you bring will know enough to make sure everything you wanted goes exactly as planned. 

What should you do if you don't want anyone to know what you're doing?

For some people, planning their funeral is a very privately-held event, and they do not wish to bring their loved ones any level of emotional distress. If this is the case with you, you should know that the funeral home will not require you to have someone with you or even to disclose the information about your planning to anyone in your family.

It is imperative that you make sure to inform at least one person, however, so they do know you have plans in place if something happens to you. Otherwise, your family may make plans at a different funeral home other than the one you have chosen when you pass away. Additionally, it is a good idea to give a copy of your plan to your attorney if you have one to help you draft your final will or estate.

Contact a provider of funeral planning services in your chosen location in order to learn more about what you will need to do for this process.